The Mundling Zone

Thoughts, rants, and raves from the desk of Michelle Mundling

Saturday, January 24, 2004

Changes to The Mundling Zone

No, it's not your imagination. I've got several posts backdated to January 2001. I have transferred the following to my blog Journal of the Tempered Storm:

What's New? and archives
Soapbox
My Struggle with Sleep Apnea
Did You Know ...
and all essays from Count Your Blessings website

I'm merging Count Your Blessings with The Mundling Zone so I can delete that Tripod account and be completely finished with Tripod once and for all.

Friday, January 23, 2004

Civil Unions and Gay Marriages

With an emphasis on live and let live

The ideal American family has always been perceived as a man and woman, married, with the average of two children. Most of these children are born into the family while the rest are adopted. As a family, they have responsibilities and privileges as specified by law (religious and/or civil).

There are homosexual couples in our country who live in similar fashion. Many have been monogamous and productive members of society. Some have even gone so far as to have/adopt children and make the effort to raise them responsibly, with morals and respect for their fellow human beings. They live and function as a family, but the only difference is they are same-sex couples. Why can't those couples who work and live like responsible families have legal access to similar privileges that traditionally married couples have?

I have thought long and hard about this. I know there are those that believe homosexuality is such a terrible sin and they should not be allowed any marital privileges at all. First of all, sin is sin. For example, those that are quick to preach the evils of homosexuality or promiscuity but will gossip or tell "little white lies," even for good intentions, are hypocrites. Someone who demonizes people who openly fornicate but will take work supplies home without thinking twice is a hypocrite. Yes, it is in the book of Leviticus that clearly states that no man is to lie down with another man as he would a woman. However, in the book of Exodus, two of the Ten Commandments are "You will not steal," and "You will not falsely testify against another." You can't denounce one sin as more repugnant than the other.

As for homosexuals, many are not the obnoxious, cross-dressing publicity whores that they are stereotyped as. Most are not the evil, lurking pedophile many imagine them to be, either. I know many that are basically good people. They have many friends and have productive lives. Many do volunteer work or have charitable causes they contribute to. Why should they be penalized just because some of us don't agree with their lifestyle? Shouldn't we be rewarding a citizen's good behavior regardless of skin color, sexual orientation, physical appearance, or some other insignificant thing that has nothing to do with a person's character?

Having said that, I believe that they should be allowed to have civil unions. It would be a legal acknowledgement (without any religious implications) that two people wish to live as a single-family unit. It's not a marriage, but it would let them have access to (for example): filing their taxes jointly as do married couples, and have access to health, life, fire, and auto insurance coverage as a family.

I've heard the argument from the homosexual community that they want to be able to "marry" their life partner. Speaking for myself, I do not believe there is such a thing as a gay marriage. If I'm not mistaken (and I'm sure someone will correct me if I am), don't most religions reference a marriage as a union between a man and a woman? Don't these same religions also discourage homosexuality (if not outright forbid it)? That's why I believe a civil union would be a compromise between gay people and the laws of society. It would be a non-religious status that would respect the unity of the relationship without changing the original definition of the word "marriage." If a homosexual couple still wishes to have a religious marital-type ceremony, that will be a decision between them and an official of their religious faith. However, unless their religion specifically allows homosexual marriages, their ceremony will not be a true marriage, no matter how bad they want it to be one. This is a consequence of their choice to pursue their orientation. I'm not saying their orientation is a choice; I believe it is hereditary. However, the pursuit of that orientation IS a choice.

Now, I'm sure some Christians are probably thinking that I've flipped my lid and need an exorcist for my views about this. I keep thinking about what Jesus would do. I keep seeing the scenario as referenced in the Bible about a mob that caught a woman in the act of adultery and brought her to Jesus for judgment. They said, "The law says she is to be stoned to death. What do you say?" Christ said, "He who is without sin may cast the first stone." One by one, each person in the crowd dropped their rocks and left. They knew Christ was right. Here the mob was eager and ready to end the life of someone they chose to scapegoat, and He gently reminded them that they had no right to judge; they were just as guilty of other sins as the adulteress they openly condemned. We all need to remember that! Christ told the woman not to sin anymore, but He did not condemn her.

Remember Mary Magdelene? She was a former prostitute and shunned by everyone in the community. Mary, mother of Jesus, welcomed her into her home and treated her with love and respect. Having Ms. Magdalene in her home did not mean Christ's mother had to act like a prostitute or condone prostitution. It meant that Mary, mother of Jesus, could show Ms. Magdalene how a person should treat another person, simply by her own actions. Following that course of logic, just because someone is homosexual doesnít mean we canít treat him/her like a human being.

Not everyone in our country adheres to a religious faith that denounces homosexuality. If we want our faith (or lack thereof) to be respected, we have to be willing to acknowledge and respect those of other people. If this must include the enactment of civil unions in our country, then so be it. God gave us all free will, and we are not responsible for what other people do. Ultimately, we are only responsible for our children and ourselves.

Thursday, January 22, 2004

Old Tripod Location is No More

Well, I did it. I logged into Tripod and deleted my mundlingzone account. The website location of http://mundlingzone.tripod.com is no more. I figure a year and a half was long enough to forward people to my site's current location.

Wednesday, January 07, 2004

Migraines suck eggrolls!

This one was pretty bad. It has finally eased off some, but I'm sitting here in the livingroom with the drapes closed and wearing sunglasses. Even my computer screen has been darkened. I know how Gizmo in Gremlins must have felt: Bright light! Bright light! Bright light baaaaaaaad!

I sleep with a fan on at night, but not since early this morning. Even the sound of my fan hurt. And let's not go there about the attitude, when I feel like the bitch from hell. You know the feeling ... when your upstairs neighbor walks around in those clickety high heels and you want to break her legs just to stop the noise.

I hate having to call in sick for a migraine. I'm not eating anything to trigger one, so I'm wondering if it's hormonally triggered (and I strongly suspect that). If that's the case, I dread menopause.

To hell with it; I'm going back to bed.

Thursday, January 01, 2004

Happy New Year!!!

I got to watch the ball drop at Times Square live via EarthCam.com. It was tripendicular! I now understand why people want to go to Times Square and celebrate the New Year there. The event creates an atmosphere. It's not a crowd of people standing around acting the fool. There's live entertainment, music, and concessions. This is something that is overshadowed on shows like Dick Clark's Rockin' New Years Eve where there's always chatty commentary on the event. With the live cam, people around the world were able to watch the camera pan over the crowd and listen to the music and the people. It was nice. It was almost like being there ... well, except I could sit down or quickly go to the bathroom ;-)

Shortly before the ball started descending, the song "God Bless the USA" played for the crowd to hear. Hearing the song and watching the cam, I honestly got into the moment, emotional enough to shed a tear as I quietly sang along. You must understand that I'm a military brat who grew up loving and believing in this country. I'm very patriotic ... always have been and always will be. Our country is not perfect, but there is no other place I'd rather be. We've been through a lot in 2003. I pray for peaceful resolutions in 2004.


Moving Websites

I finished moving the GSIDIOT web site to a new server yesterday, and I finished deleting the old site from Tripod. Now, I know Tripod needs to make money to stay in business, but their ads are getting more annoying. On the sites I have with Tripod, I agreed to have pop up ads instead of embedded ads. I found out not too long ago that there are now embedded ads as well as pop up ads on the sites. Free or not, that's too much for me. Soul Sister's site is on Tripod as well as my Christian site, but not for long. Soul Sister's site will be moved to another server, and my Christian site will be merged with The Mundling Zone.

As I'm sitting here writing this, I've come to the realization that it isn't just Tripod that's changed; I've changed, too. Perhaps my skills have evolved to the point that I've outgrown Tripod. It can happen. I no longer want to use Tripod's "File Manager" to upload pictures and pages. I no longer want my websites to have pop up or embedded advertisements (they take away from the look of the pages). I guess what I'm trying to say is that Tripod is a great service for beginners and those who wish to have simpler web designs. It's just not for me anymore.